Fear of dentists is extremely common. A huge portion of our patients explain to us their fear of dental treatment, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about, and you are far from alone in this. Unfortunately though, we can only help those that come through our doors... and research has shown that each year, half a million Australians do not go to the dentist because of fear.
Firstly, congratulate yourself for being on this website page - we appreciate that it would have been much easier to just avoid dentistry altogether. Although it's never nice to hear "no offence, but i really hate dentists" as the first thing so many people say to you, we get it, it's really hard on many levels. We won't take it personally, but please believe us when we say we are here to help you, not hurt you.
We offer anti-anxiolytic medication such as:
If you would like us to organise this for you, contact us before your appointment.
What goes through your mind when you think about going to the dentist? What is it that gets your heart racing? When we ask patients, a lot of the time they have difficulty pinpointing what it is about coming to see us they hate so much. All they know is they hate it.
However, dental anxiety, although so common, is so complicated and everyone is unique in their story. Identifying what it is that makes you uncomfortable will allow you to understand your fear more, and then you can tailor your appointment with us to minimise those things. You do not have to explain yourself as to why those things scare you if you do not want to.
Book an appointment but specify that you want a verbal consultation only (so essentially, a good talk. no clinical anything - we wont even have our mask or gloves on). We can do this in the clinical room or we can do it in a consult room with no dental chair, it is up to you! If you don't think you'll be able to talk about it in the dental chair, you could try: talking with a friend or family member that is a good listener, and then bring them in to support you; talking to our reception staff in a non-clinical room or via phone; write it out and email it to us, or bring it in with you.
This is critical! Find someone who you trust and makes you feel comfortable - one that you would like, if only they weren't a dentist! Marius St Family Dental is family run, local and here to stay - so we can assure you that any clinician in our practice is well-trained, will offer quality treatment, and are good, ethical people who only ever do their very best to help their patients. We also work together as a team, so we aren't going to get upset if you would like to meet a few different clinicians to find the best fit. In fact, we encourage it! There are male and female dentists, it's okay to have a preference. Be open with our reception staff, they know each clinician well and can suggest to you who may be best for your individual needs.
Try different things until you've found a way to make going to the dentist manageable - even if it is getting put to sleep, at least you are getting treatment! Read below suggestions as to things that may help for each of the common fears and try the ones that you feel would help - tell us what works and doesn't work for you and we will note them for you to make your experience more personalised.
A fear of needles is extremely common. It is estimated that it affects at least 10-20% of adults. Rest assured that technology and increased awareness has meant that injections are becoming less unpleasant. Dental needles in Australia are extremely thin thanks to improved metal science. Here are some tips to help:
The mouth is one of the most sensitive areas of the body, so many people are worried about feeling pain during treatment.
Top tips:
Bring in your own earphones and try and drown it out with music!
The mouth is the second most private part of our bodies, and one we normally only show to our partner or our dentist. Dentists are very much in our personal space! It could stem from a lack of trust of the dentist. It could also stem from issues completely unrelated to dentistry - some people are just very uncomfortable laying down completely.
Things that can help
Not being able to swallow when you want when there is lots of water, instruments and saliva in your mouth - understandable that you're worried about choking.
Choking fears can be especially heightened in people who suffer from tongue restriction or breathing-related problems such as asthma, sleep apnoea or lung disease.
What can be done to help?
Do we have to use water?
Unfortunately, yes. We use so much water to cool the instruments, but also to wash away debris as we work to keep a clean environment. Having heated instruments can damage the teeth and gums so this is why there is a limit to how much we can reduce the water spray. Sometimes we can turn the water down a bit and go slower. Alternatively, we can sometimes use hand instruments instead of machines.
Try to figure out what brings on this fear.
First, be proud of yourself for seeking help.
Second, we are professionals whose sole job is to help people with dental disease. Trust us when we say we have seen, treated and achieved good outcomes for mouths in a much worse condition. We are not here to judge or lecture you.
We try to educate in an objective manner where we stick to facts and avoid emotional language.
Some patients want us to tell them what they're doing wrong, whereas some patients just want us to fix the problem and not say anything. Let us know which one you are.
Dr Vera says this about people who are embarrassed about their teeth:
"In my personal experience as a dentist, patients' with dental anxiety are usually picturing the absolute worst. It is 100% of the time worse in their head than it is in reality. I really want to see people who are embarrassed of their smile, because it shows that they care, and I know that it's at the worst state their teeth will ever be in, because it'll only be uphill from there as we stabilise and treat disease. It's actually the relaxed patients that think its normal and expected to extract tooth after tooth that scares me the most because they genuinely don't care when they lose teeth, and get frustrated if I suggest we spend money to try and preserve teeth.
I don't care what state your teeth are in, as long as you're willing to work with me together to get things better. I think patients must think we are thinking negative, judgemental thoughts, when in reality our brains are going at full speed trying to answer the questions of 'what needs to be done to get this tooth healthy', 'what challenges might I encounter during treatment', 'what's the pattern of disease, can I figure out what's contributing to this current condition'. I'm thinking about what your teeth COULD look like and how to get there."
Bad Reaction to Local Anaesthetic
Complications with anaesthetic is rare and almost always temporary, but they do happen.
The majority of the time this is a reaction to the small amount of adrenaline in the local anaesthetic. On the rare occasion, this adrenaline goes into the bloodstream and will cause rapid beating of the heart - similar to a panic attack. This can be quite unpleasant for a few minutes as your heart races and your breathing can become shallow. Just focus on breathing and the fact that it will pass in a few minutes. It was just unlucky that the needle stopped at a blood vessel. We have techniques to minimise this but sometimes it happens. Don't let it turn you off - just because it happened once doesn't mean it will happen again, it was just bad luck for that one injection. But we do have non-adrenaline containing injections if you are scared of this - they do wear off much faster though, so you will need more.
Sometimes you will feel a little zap, like a little electric buzz which lasts half a second. This is fairly normal and nothing to worry about. It is a minor nerve getting activated and sending a strong short message. Nothing has gone wrong.
Very rarely, people's bodies react to the preservatives. If this occurs, note the type of anaesthetic used and make sure the dentist uses a different one.
Injection Site Being Sore
This could be from the entry point getting infected or from the muscles spasming after the injection was given. Do salty mouthrinses on the day of your appointment, and use a warm moist heat pack straight after the appointment to relax the muscles if you are prone to muscle tension/spasm. Also take regular breaks through the appointment.
Bruising around the injection site - there is always a small bruise, and will look like a little purple dot that heals very quickly.
Very rarely, people bruise extensively or have visible bruising on the face/neck. If this has happened to you, it was because the needle damaged a blood vessel on its way in. It was unlucky, and I can't say it will never happen again as there are thousands of little blood vessels in our mouth, but I can only reassure you we will use good injection technique and that the bad experience is most likely not going to repeat itself.
Fear of Being Numb
A numb sensation is negative for many people, it is a survival response as many poisons numb the mouth. Also we 'go numb' when our body is going into panic. People who have had panic attacks might associate the feeling with the start of a panic attack.
Most people do not enjoy the numb feeling as they feel like they can't breathe/swallow/use their mouth properly, or they are constantly worried that they are going to drool or look strange.
If this is the case:
Desensitising yourself to the feeling - if you have a strong negative response to feeling numb, it might help for us to give you some numbing gel which you can use small amounts of to just numb the gum at home in a safe environment, so that you can get used to the feeling. If you do, do something to celebrate - be proud of being numb - and build up a positive association to the feeling rather than a negative one.
As mentioned before, the mouth is a very sensitive part of the body and very private and intimate. Dentistry is very much in people's personal space and can feel extremely invasive. Patients are laying back in a very vulnerable position. For dentistry to work, it requires an astounding amount of trust. It can be extremely difficult for people if this trust has been broken before.
Any number of dental fears can arise. Just to give a few examples, many abuse survivors struggle with loss of control, laying down for treatment, having objects put in the mouth, severe gagging and fear of having the mouth or nose covered. Some even have difficulty brushing their teeth.
Only you can judge the level of help you need to become comfortable with dentistry. Many do not make the connection between abuse and dental fear. Sometimes, even just being aware of this can help.
What can the dentist offer?
We would suggest that your first appointment be about becoming comfortable with your dentist. It is so important to only start dental treatment when you have found a dentist that makes you feel comfortable and is empathetic.
Ask for a 'verbal consultation only' where we do not do anything in the mouth, just sit and talk. Here we can establish what your dental concerns and wants are, what makes you comfortable or uncomfortable, how we might help with those things, and what the next step is. If we understand what your fear is, we can work with you. The last thing we want is for us to pick up that you're nervous but not know why, and assume that it is because you're scared of the needle.
Good Resources
As a profession, we have evolved so much. We now appreciate that to be a good dentist, our clinical skills are only one part of what we need. We need to be able to understand our patients, hear their needs and earn their trust rather than demand it. Assisting patients with dental fear is taught at many universities as part of the compulsory course.
The whole profession of medicine relies on trust. Although people are much more educated and have much more access to information now, it is impossible for patients to truly understand everything and to be able to make decisions without guidance from the dentist. We have to trust the dentist's judgment and ability . It is a big responsibility.
I am going to be honest here, I never lie to my patients. All medicine, whether we like it or not, is a business. Private practice dentistry more so than your GP, because we don't get our rent and fees subsidised like they do. I am saying this because there is a growing fear of dentists overtreating patients for financial gain. I personally believe this increased after the government made it legal for non-dentists to own dental practices, and we saw the surge of 'corporate dentistry' as well as health funds trying to control their costs by opening up their own clinics.
Unfortunately overtreatment (unnecessary treatment) does sometimes occur (I would like to think never in our practice!), however I believe that a great majority of 'overtreatment' is due to poor communication by the dentist rather than out of greed or lack of ethics - When the treatment plan was based on what they think is best, not what the patient actually wanted. At the end of the day, whoever is treating you is a registered doctor and our duty is to your health and well-being (in Australia anyway - can't vouch for dental tourism). You can rest assured that all Australian dentists are heavily regulated and are legally obligated to do right by you, with serious consequences if they don't. Australia has amongst the strictest infection control, regulation and highest quality of dentistry in the world!
Tips
If there is something in the plan that you are unsure of and would like a separate opinion, talk to our receptionist and we will book you in with another clinician who will do their own examination and tests separately and provide a full consultation as to their judgement and your treatment options, at no charge. It is important to us that you are happy with your treatment plan.
FAQ: I went to two dentists and they suggested completely different things. Is one of them overtreating?
A bigger, more expensive plan does not mean overtreatment. A lot of the time, more comprehensive treatment could be because the dentist is more experienced and can offer such a plan. The more you know, the more you see. For example, many dentists do not do orthodontics, increase height of worn down teeth, treat jaw dysfunction, assess muscles, place implants etc, so of course it would not be part of their plan. The key thing is that you know why each suggested their plan - did it make sense to you? At the end of the day, go with treatment that feels right for you.
We hear many horror stories from 'dentists back in the day'. Please, give us another chance!
Dentistry is NOT THE SAME as it was 20 years ago, or even 5 years ago! Every month we have new technologies that allow us to be less invasive and more gentle.
Each dentist is different. If one dentist was disagreeable or condescending, it does not mean the next one will be. Try and associate that memory with the specific person or appointment and not dentistry as a whole. For example, "that particular appointment/dentist was unpleasant", not "dentistry/dentists are awful". Mental association is very powerful and it can be devastating when it is working against you. When you do give dentistry another chance, please be aware of any associations you have so that you can reduce its effect. For instance, if someone had a past experience with a dentist that was rude, it is very easy to treat your next dentist as if they are going to be rude to you, and then this prevents effective communication because we are now on the defensive.
Forgiveness is important in leaving a bad experience in the past. Believe that the dentist in the past did not have the technology, techniques and training that we do today, that their intentions were still good and that they were only trying to help you in the only way they knew how. We are human and don't always get everything right. Forgive them and try again.
Let us know exactly what you liked and didn't like about your dental experiences in the past and we will do our best to make you comfortable and avoid reminding you of any unpleasant appointments. If you never create new experiences, you will only ever have those bad ones to remember. The longer you avoid dentistry, the harder it is to come in.
Call us at (02) 6766 1766 or book online to schedule your consultation. Whether it’s a simple check-up or more complex issue, our experienced team is here to help. Let us take care of your smile with the compassion and expertise you deserve!